How to Keep Going When You’re Stuck

Moving forward when your life is in paralysis

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Overcoming procrastination

This is something that many of us do, that holds us back from achieving. You put off doing the hoovering or completing tasks for work and they never get done. So how do you stop doing this? The blunt answer is you need to force yourself. A way that I help to overcome procrastination is to write myself small lists each day of what I want to achieve by the evening. I give myself rewards for achieving my assigned jobs and I do not let myself indulge in small pleasures such as watching a film in the evening or having a slice of cake if I have not completed my list.

What to do when your whole life is no longer in motion

Sometimes you feel like your life has hit a wall. You’re stuck in a job you hate, maybe your relationship has lost its spark. You feel like you have failed. Many of us have been there at some point and can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel- you feel like your life is destined to stay the same. Life has plateaued for you and you desperately want it to improve but you feel like it isn't within your capability to be better.

1. Find the source

The first step to helping yourself is to recognise that you are stuck in a rut. It is also helpful if you can find the source of your paralysis. Is it your career? Is it your living situation? Is it your friendships? Finding the factor that is holding you back from moving forward and being happy is majorly important to improving your life.

2. Decide whether to eliminate the cause

It might not always be possible to completely eliminate the source of your problems but you can decide to change how it is affecting you. If it’s your career, consider if you can perhaps find something better. Is your field of work one that you truly want to be in? If not, analyse your talents and interests. You could take a course of something that excites you, like photography or journalism. No matter your stage in life, it is never too late to start something new.

3. Start something completely new

You might not be able to change current things in your life such as your house, your job or your finances very easily, but you can alter the quality of your life. Take up a new hobby, join a gym class, put yourself in a position to make new friends. These small changes in your life could hugely boost your happiness and you may find yourself in a stronger position to tackle those things that are holding you back. It is hard to make big changes when you are feeling low, but if you find yourself with new friends and a greater purpose, it might give you the strength you need to quit that awful job or leave your toxic best-friend.

4. Take risks

You are most likely in this situation because you have stayed where you are out of comfort. You don't think you can do better than your current job or partner and so you stick with them out of ease. Shatter the illusion that you can’t do better. You can, everyone can if they only try.

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Cambridge master’s student, literature grad and a semi-amateur writer.

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